Have you ever wanted something? You know, like really, really wanted something? And then you got it. And then you freaked out 😳😬
Yeah I had been wanting feedback from you. And then I got it. And then I freaked out a little 🙄😂
So since I started blogging and sending out newsletters and ramping up my presence on social media I have been so focused on how to do it that I was able to distract myself for a bit. Then I started asking for feedback and I got *crickets* so I decided that no one was really tuning in anyway, so I went back to distracting myself with the back end and technical stuff.
Believe it or not, even though I have been showing up in your inbox on a regular basis and rambling away in Facebook Lives, I actually like hanging out in the background. It’s safe and comfortable in the background.
When I am distracted and hanging out in the background then my Imposter (one of Anxiety’s many faces) does not have much to say. Yeah, and what I know is that none of the work that I know I am here to do is going to get accomplished if I stay comfortable and quiet in the background 🙄
So that means that I have to deal with my Anxiety, in the form of the Imposter. That’s the one that tells you that you don’t know what you are talking about and that no one wants to hear what you have to say anyway. The one that asks “Who do you think you are?” with a snarky and sarcastic tone. The voice that spreads the seeds of self-doubt and convinces you that you are not competent.
What does any of this have to do with me freaking out about getting the feedback that I have been asking for? Well, now that a few of you have actually given me feedback (and I do truly thank you for sharing with me 😍😘) I can no longer just hang out in the background! I have to show up and write something or say something (in videos and FB Lives) that actually is of value and helpful for those of you who are watching and reading my ramblings! No pressure there 😳 Yeah, shit just got real!
So here I am, dealing with my Imposter and with my little freak outs along the way and committing to continue to show up regularly on my website, and in your inbox, and on social media to share as much valuable information as I possibly can to support you and your loved ones on this wild ride that we call Life 😍😘
One of the pieces of feedback that I received was that the questions that I ask make great journal topics. So for those of you so inclined to journal (and have I mentioned that I highly recommend journaling?) here’s this weeks question: How does Anxiety show up for you? Does it ever wear the Imposter mask? Is it critical and does it bring self-doubt to your stage? Have you ever been successful in banishing the Imposter to the back of the theater and continued on with your important work?
Just like with plain old regular Anxiety, the way to deal with the Imposter is to answer it’s “What if…?” questions with “So what?” and to keep doing what you are doing! Show up every day and keep moving forward toward your goals. Anxiety, in whatever form it shows up, does not get to run the show or sit in the front row and criticize you. Banish it to the back of the theater and keep going, even if the heckling continues from the balcony 😉
Another piece of feedback was that at least one of you has been actually holding back from sharing how these ramblings of mine have assisted you and that you are not sharing any questions or topics that you would like me to address because your own Anxiety has held you back. That fear of “what if everyone can see what I share?” or “What if Auntie Anxiety thinks my question is stupid?” 😬. Fucking Anxiety and it’s Fucking “What if….?” Game 🙄
Folks, if you email me (firstname.lastname@example.org), anything you share or ask is kept confidential! I may write about it at some point in the future, but I sure as hell am not going to attach your name or any identifying information without your permission! I truly do want to hear from you with questions, concerns, and any other information that will allow me to assist you in your journey to recognizing and embracing your Anxiety as your super power!
I have actually made it even simpler for you. Here is a link to a survey that I created: http://www.auntieanxiety.com/fall-2017-survey.html It is a whopping 5 questions long 😉 and the information you share is also only coming directly to me and will be kept confidential.
What do you want me to talk about next week? Complete the survey or shoot me an e-mail and I’ll do my best to assist!
P.S. - Groups start this week so get off the fence and get your Teen or Tween registered here: http://www.auntieanxiety.com/teen-group-application-survey.html
The voice behind Auntie Anxiety is Lynn Dutrow, Courage Coach and Counselor