So I could sit here and share all of the "tips and tricks" about how, when you are experiencing anxiety, that you "should”:
I could do that.
I know all of that stuff is helpful for feeling more calm AND I also know that you already know all of that shit.
If you could do it, you would do it!
So how is it helpful for me to give you a list of things that you know you are "supposed" to do? What, so you can feel even worse about yourself and your situation? Yeah, that's not the least bit helpful in the moment when Anxiety finds an in and decides to bite you in the Ass!
I have asked every client (and even my friends and family and random people on the street) and 100% of the time when I ask “When you are upset or panicing, has anyone ever said 'just breathe' or 'everythings OK, just calm down’" and they say “YES!" and I say "and did you want to PUNCH THEM IN THE FACE?" the answer is a resounding “YES!" and the look of incredulous relief that 1) I must be able to read their mind and 2) someone else understands that desire to strangle someone (oh and that look and their reaction, it is priceless 😍). One hundred percent of the time folks.....let that sink in....
So why do we continue to treat Anxiety as something to fight with? Why do we just keep looking for band-aids to slap on our challenges? Why do we continue to offer suggestions for calming before we have the conversation about what a Liar and Bully Anxiety can be? Because most people are working from a broken model of how to treat Anxiety, that's why. Please don't get me wrong. All of this stuff is healthy for you and can support you in the process AND you have to learn how to Accept and Deal with Anxiety FIRST!
So how do you deal with chronic worry and anxiety? You work on getting ALIGNED with it. Learn about how it works, make friends with it, understand it. You learn that Anxiety lies to you with messages like "You NEED to be Certain and Comfortable" and "Safety is Priority #1" and "OMG, what other people think is REALLY IMPORTANT" AND you learn how to say "So what, I'm not buying your lies anymore"!
Want to do this on your own? That’s cool….here is a link to my free guide for Seven Suggestions for Getting Anxiety’s Ass out of your Driver’s Seat and into the Backseat (where it belongs).
Want more support? Auntie Anxiety offers individual and group support so check out the offerings here on my site or email me with questions Ask@AuntieAnxiety.com
Hey, will you do me a favor? Will you take a moment to comment below with how anxiety shows up in your life and bites you in the ass? 😘. Or, better yet, will you follow this link and take a short survey that will assist me in a little project that I have in mind for teaching people better "Tips and Tricks" for Dealing with their Anxiety?
The voice behind Auntie Anxiety is Lynn Dutrow, Courage Coach and Counselor