How many of you turned the calendar over to August a week ago and went "Holy Shit!"???
It may simply be just because August represents the last month of summer (even though the season Summer does not end until September 21st ), but how many of you had that reaction because it means that it's time to get ready for your kids to return to school? Maybe this is a milestone year: your baby is heading to college for the first time or your oldest is off to Kindergarten all day. Maybe you are excited because summer has gone by like molasses running uphill in January (that would be super slow for those of you unfamiliar with that old time saying) and you cannot wait for your kids to be back in school. What about those of you who have kids who are already ramping up their anxiety about going back? Are you envisioning the tears, complaints of stomachaches, attempts to avoid, and shouting matches that the school year brings? Whatever your situation, does Anxiety take full advantage by showing up and bringing a bag of worry and fear to your table?
Anxiety loves change because it is one of the easiest times for it to get a hold on us and play the "What if...?" Game! "What if my kid has trouble on the bus?" "What if she cries when I drop her off?" "What if he doesn't have any friends?" "What if my kid refuses to go to school at all?"
None of us like to see our kids in pain or suffering while they wrestle with overwhelming situations and emotions. Change is tough for everyone involved. The tricky part here is that Change is Inevitable (it is actually Growth that is Optional) AND the more we support our kids in learning how to deal with change and the overwhelming feelings that often accompany change, the more prepared they will be to become self-sufficient and competent adults one day.
So what do you do for the time that you have left before the school year starts (where I live that is not until after Labor Day this year!)?
The voice behind Auntie Anxiety is Lynn Dutrow, Courage Coach and Counselor