Yeah, Anxiety and I have been together for a long time AND the good news is, I know it is a Liar! Does it still get me with all of this bullshit sometimes? Yep, it does….AND I also know how to recognize the lies and move forward anyway. Am I triggered sometimes? Yep….AND I deal with my thoughts and feelings and move forward anyway.
Fortunately, every once in awhile, I actually get to witness the answer to “Why Bother?” One of these instances happened just the other night. I had spent part of the afternoon working on a post about how, especially in light of all of the hateful shit that is going on around us, Connection and Community are Key to dealing with Anxiety and Fear (those places that can grow anger and hate). It was about 20 minutes before my Anxiously Empowered Adult Group was to begin. I was hiding out in the little nook in my office where I have my Command Center (OK, it’s just my desk, computer, filing cabinet, and work space tucked around the corner) and I hear group members starting to arrive.
At some point I start to tune in because, instead of silence, which is what I often hear when there are Anxious people in the waiting room, I hear Talking and then I hear Laughing. My heart starts to sing and my brain registers, “THIS….THIS is what makes all of this worthwhile”.
My purpose is to Connect. On this I am clear. Sometimes connecting Anxious Tweens, Teens, Moms, and Adults is more challenging than Herding Cats, AND when I persist and keep offering and showing up, people do connect and all kinds of Wonderful Magic Happens!
This particular Group has adults ranging in age from late 20’s to early 60’s, a mix of men and women. These are people who find it difficult to be social, worried about what others may think about them, or say to them. Worried they will freeze or even panic. Some of them find it difficult to leave home or to commit to much beyond getting to work each day. All of them have had their daily life and their lifetime joy impacted by Anxiety's Lies.
Here’s the Awesome Part, though, THEY SHOW UP FOR GROUP AND THEY TALK AND SHARE AND SUPPORT AND QUESTION….AND THEY LAUGH! And that, my friends, makes it all worthwhile!
If You or a Loved One is Looking to Deal with Anxiety...
The voice behind Auntie Anxiety is Lynn Dutrow, Courage Coach and Counselor